If you have another host on your network that can run wireshark you should be able to see that traffic. I would say that debugging it this way is a long-shot. I would try a quiet network with only the two hosts and the router if possible.
It looks like a router issue to me, so trying a different router would be a good idea. In particular if you have a dual band router, try disabling the 5 GHz band and see if it improves or trying a router that does not do 5 GHz if you cannot disable it.